Luksa, many people do not want to "get into a relationship." They may have bad experiences in the past and are very cautious. So Kaliope's advice is worth heeding. The rule of thumb I use is have furn and find common ground. Then when the person feels secure you may find you are already in a relationship without even asking them to be in one.

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