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Old Jun 21, 2015, 07:18 PM
ErikEverhard ErikEverhard is offline
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Originally Posted by jo_thorne View Post
Oh my gosh - I wrote a long reply and the internet ate it.

Yes, I've been there - it was a very long time ago, but I haven't forgotten the pain of it. I agree that it is excruciating, it is hell.

I stayed friends in my situation, too, and it turned out to prolong the pain. Later on, I looked back and wished that I had had the strength to cut off contact with the person. I had a bad episode of depression afterwards and pretty much lost the ability to have any kind of relationship for 3-4 years during a time of my life when I would have liked to be looking for someone for a long-term relationship.

I think people who are prone to have serious depressive episodes do well to be careful emotionally. I know that sounds "chicken", but I'm basing it on painful experience. I used to be somewhat of an emotional risk-taker, someone who really loved the adrenalin rush that comes from risky relationships, but it was very destructive.

Well you just exactly described what happened to me before, and exactly what is going on with me now. Nearly everything you said fits me perfectly. I too have bad and extreme episodes of depression and like I said in my case, if I break away than I am depressed, if I stay friends I am depressed. Simple hell.