By the 8th year of marriage and the birth of our child my wife and I found ourselves so exhausted all the time that sex just was a memory. We were in grad school, working two jobs, raising a child, and keeping up a house and all that entails. Now after retiring I have no idea how I did all that but I do know I would have discussed with her back then some way we could find time for intimacy.

Our stress led to our demise and we divorced within the next six years after spending a whole two years in separate bed rooms and no sex.

I highly recommend marriage counseling if you are to get some solid recommendations of what to do about your problem. We tried counseling but it didn't work for us because we went way too late.

jb