Just wanted to say hi and Welcome to PsychCentral.

I'm sorry I don't have time to read through all of this now (it is just a littleeeeeee bit long ), hopefully at some stage I can and give you a response.

There is a Forum - You will get support from those in similar positions as you:

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In the meantime I'm sure others will be able to offer some insight into your question.

Take care