These are really good posts!!! Msorganized - please know you are understood.

With my x - I was emotionally/mentally more experienced. When we split there was resentment but I also realize it just did not work. We had dreams and it's sad we could not figure out how to make it work. He and I did not have the tools to figure out how to make it work. We both came from homes where there was so much dysfunction - we thought we could rise above it...

My dad was a different story - I held on to anger and resentment for a great deal of my life. He was my blood and he was awful. Over time I was able to let go of this (I let him go too). I was being held hostage in my own brain with my thoughts/emotions regarding him. I wasted a lot of time on this.

It did get better - with therapy. You can learn techniques to stop these feelings. Do not let those memories continue to destroy the best of you. Now and then some of the old feelings come back - but now I know how to deal with it. I do not stuff it - I feel it but then I let go. It's not overwhelming. Heck I made it though Father's Day! That use to be one of the worst days of the year for me.

My aunt holds on to resentment of her x - going on 30 yrs now....don't do it. I promise it will get better but you probably need help with it.

Glad you are here - take care!