Run2white, Thank you for your helpful post. I understand what you mean about treating my assests in a business like manner, thats what I am trying to do but sometimes when your on this emotional roller coaster its hard to divide yourself if you know what I mean.

Your absolutely right about setting boundaries. I have already tried to do that before I filed for divorce but he seems to want to have it all his way, so I said there is nothing else to try and I guess this means we are done. I told him to leave and find his own place of which he did. I think he is happier now because I am not there to set those boundaries and he is free willy at this point.

It just hurts so bad to think I was not worth it and to just throw our marriage away just like that without a fight, especially when he convinced me that I was the one for the rest of his life!!

Thanks for helping,
Terry