Hi regrets, thanks for your response. I read your "stuck" post, it was very interesting.

Too bad though that things turned out the way they did. I am sure if you were to live it all over again you would be with the man you had the affair with this day.
In essence, you lost both men. I am truly sorry.

Could I ask why you kept going back and forth with the ex? was it that he kept making those sweet promises that he never kept? If so, I know how you feel as my STBX did the same thing. Promise after promise and nothing EVER surfaced not even the slightest.

I am going to take everyones advice to just move on and just focus on making my self happy. I had visioned on what my future would be like and when I realized I could be with someone else's tossed out garbage it just made me shutter. I am age 48 and I believe that is what I will be dealing with. NO thank you !

Terry