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Originally Posted by Virginia1991
Touch is a big deal for me. I have had issues regarding this my whole life. My mom didn't give touch or allow us to touch her. Being touched is awkward and uncomfortable to me, however I do crave it from 3 people in my life who are all maternal figures for me. We hug at the end of sessions. It is hard for me to ask so she usually asks more than me. I initiated the conversation of hugs myself though via email. She will also sit by me and put her hand on my back if I ask. This will be for just a few minutes and only once in awhile will I ask but I do appreciate that the option is there. Growing up, I always felt I must be disgusting, my own mom and step dad refuse to touch me at all. This creates a lot of conflict in my head. The conflict lies in craving it but being very scared of it. Luckily, this does not occur with my wife and kids.
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I think some people might not agree if the T initiates hugs. My T almost always initiates them. In a way, making me ask might be beneficial for me....because I'm NOT good with that. But I know there are some who say T's initiating hugs or asking for them might reveal more about their needs than ours. Way I think of it, my T doesn't NEED a hug from me...so when she initiates it or says "come give me a hug," I don't think she's doing it for her.