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Originally Posted by Sarah Bee
My name is Sarah and I'm one of the protectors of my system. I'm in my early 20's.
We also have Jess (17-the warrior), Adam (13-protects his twin, Amanda), Alice (adult-my backup).
We supposedly have another protector with us but she's very nasty to our host. I've heard the term 'persecutory protector' and I wonder if she applies. She doesn't want any of us to know her name, though we have hints. She will call our host names and basically make her (and others!) feel bad.
Jess is furious with The Other (can't figure out a better name for now) and told her that she will protect our host from her.
How can I make sense of The Other and her purpose for being essentially abusive?
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short version is that there is that only you and your treatment providers can in your words make sense of the other and he purpose for being essentially abusive....
longer version...
here in my location each of my alters had their own jobs, purposes and reasons for being who and what they are. the key wasnt in each of my alters trying to figure out the others and what the others jobs, purposes, reasons for being were, my alters just were how ever and who ever they were created to be and do... living with alternate personalities is like putting a whole bunch of people in the same room and living that way all your life, that becomes the normal.
think about something that you have done all your lifetime. thats just how and who you are right. its your normal....well the other parts of you no matter which part it is, how and who they are is their normal...
now think about how you would go about understanding who and what you are and what your job, purpose reason for being is...even normal human beings go through questioning their own identity, their purpose in life, the big question of why am I here, ...deeper questions like that... how would you go about it..
for some people this means the person searching for these kinds of answers about their self goes to therapy and digging deeper into their life, things they went through (traumas and other events too) until they discover for their self who and what they are and what their purpose in life is...
when it comes to alters understanding each other here in my location thats called having co consciousness. co consciousness is how much awareness there is in knowing each parts memories, emotions, jobs, purposes, reasons for being and much more.
for some parts like with normal people searching for their own identity, their own purpose, job, reason for being it can take years or only a short amount of time, in either case it takes therapy and hard work.
my suggestion is talk with your treatment provider, they will help you to understand why you dont know what this other parts purpose/reason for being is and whether its possible for you to develop co consciousness with this part so that you do know that information.