The universe isn't laughing at you. Those are old tapes playing in your head, more than your heart.

So, I'd just block my brother's e.mail address, if you're feeling that hurt....or delete when you hear from him. There's no reason for you to take that kind of abuse from him. Trust me, he knew he was hurting you. I don't see why you're blaming yourself in this scenario. Bro instigated it.....

I hope you can get past this stumbling block, with little bitterness, and move on. They are not thinking about us or our pain. No way, no how......

You have proved that you are a very strong woman and to give over your control to this isn't a very good idea.

Think of it this way......if you use drugs and you quit and start back up....you're at the same place you were when you quit....if you can work your way away from all of this and not go back.......you're FREE........does that make any sense a'tall??????? love you, pat


Forgive and forget? I think I have forgiven everything he did to me because I learned that he is a very sick individual....but I'll never forgive how he has treated my daughters since the divorce. They were 5 and 7 and the boys were 7 and 9 when we married.Married 16 years.

I'm in contact with the boys and he has seen the girls once in 17 years. And it has broken their hearts, as they felt he was their FATHER. He told them he was....their dad is a JERK.