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Originally Posted by musinglizzy
It sure saddens me the Ts out there who won't hug their clients because of transference. Like they're being punished for their feelings. My T used to sit by me and hold me when I cried. She quit that. I took that hard enough...but if she decided down the road to take hugs away too, I'm GONE. It would be different if she never gave hugs. Just like I was fine before she came to sit by me. But now that I know what I'm missing out on, it's hard, and I, too, feel like I'm being punished.
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This is exactly how I feel, like I'm being punished for the transference. I mean, if my T had just said, "Well, you never asked for a hug so I never gave you one" or "I just don't hug my clients," it would have been fine. Guess that's a topic for next week's session (along with all the other stuff from MC today). I feel a bit like I'm being punished for transference by MC too, which we addressed a bit today, but he's at least been consistent in handshakes, so some form of touch. (that's a topic for a different thread.)