Phew!!! I'm so glad to read everyone's views here.What they put us through!!! I feel like I've spent my whole life saying no to this sort of thing. It used to be my brothers! My brother just older than me came to my door once with his laundry..I showed him how to walk to the laundrette..lol. and the conniving that comes with requests for money etc... ...and the feelings of guilt...I left home very young and made it on my own...my son 20 has been particularly heartbreaking in this area..his requests come with a but don't you love me mum? and he uses the most beautiful innocent voice..but he wants money to buy cigs and booze!!!.. and my daughter shes a weak spot..I have given in to her because she's so beautiful in spirit!!...but she's getting the no response pretty soon..as soon as she pays me back!!..lol..what am I going to be like when Im a grandmother one day!!! have pity on me....luv Jjulia