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Originally Posted by musinglizzy
It sure saddens me the Ts out there who won't hug their clients because of transference. Like they're being punished for their feelings. My T used to sit by me and hold me when I cried. She quit that. I took that hard enough...but if she decided down the road to take hugs away too, I'm GONE. It would be different if she never gave hugs. Just like I was fine before she came to sit by me. But now that I know what I'm missing out on, it's hard, and I, too, feel like I'm being punished.
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In my opinion a T should never stops hugs unless they feel physically threatened. If they don't like hugging they should say that in the first place.
I am so sorry for everything you have been through Lizzy. I have read all of your posts and I am so angry for you. If I had been you I would have been gone after the first time she took touch away. (I used to be held while I cried by a friend a few years ago and then she stopped and I felt so broken. I know how it feels. I don't want my T to hold me because I am scared) Just know that you have helped me Lizzy. I have mentioned your story to my T in fear of it happening to me and it has brought us closer. I hope things get better for you and you can be happy. I am pulling for you and sending you positive vibes.