I don't really know how to ask this, so bare with me. My marriage is a complete mess, there are faults on both sides (of course) but my husband won't admit to his and blames our problems on my "laziness." He says if I could "snap out of it", things would be better. He won't accept that I have a disorder or "condition" (whatever you want to call it), and refuses to sit down and just talk about our marriage.

To be honest, I don't see our marriage lasting very much longer. We've been in counseling for a about a month but he goes and just sits there with nothing to say. His behavior at home is terrible; he won't help with the kids or the house, treats me okay until we have sex (or he takes care of it himself) then treats me like a dog or completely ignores me, he's not interested in my life (interests, hobbies, studies, etc.) but wants me to be involved with his business until there's something he doesn't want me to know about, in which case he hides until after the fact.

Yet all of this is MY fault because I can't act normal and am always isolated with no friends, no interactions, and no life. I'm the one to blame because I can't "get ahold of [myself]."

Another problem is the way I percieve our marital problems. Sometimes I think my emotions are amplified. I've been told that I analyze too much and make things out to be something they aren't.

So I guess I need to know 1.) is my husband right about me being at fault, and 2.) am I wrong for feeling hopeless over my marriage and feeling like things are worse than other people see them.

Sorry if I've talked in circles, there is just SO MUCH stuff I need to get out-I just don't know where to start or how to get it all out on the table, or know who to tell!