All this reminds me of the great divide when it comes to sleep training babies where at the one etreme end some say that you must not react to their crying at all so they can learn to sleep alone. Some of your therapists sound like that and I actually find that quite frightening because care or reassurance isn't like crack, you don' get addicted, wreck your life and die. No one ever has stopped having basic emotional needs by not getting them met. This is just bizarre.