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Originally Posted by Smileonmyface
it is my sweet, loveable, fun loving daughter's fourth birthday today. while i have come to terms with not having any friends in real life that i can see or talk to and the likelihood that i probably never will, it saddens me that we have no one to celebrate with. no other kids to invite over. the highlight of our day will most likely be our visit from the family center lady who brings over toys and costumes to play my kids adore her. and later we will go to mcdonalds playland where she will follow other kids around like a hopeful puppy and hopefully they will play with her.
i don't believe it is for lack of trying. i gave out our number to all the parents at her preschool for summer "playdates" but that didn't pan out as no one has called.
i can only hope that as she gets older, her social skills surpass mine and she will make her own friends in spite of her mother's social rejection.
a happy day. wish it didn't have this sadness looming in the background.
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Man, can I ever relate to this. I have a two year old and he has no friends either, nor has he been properly socialized mostly due to my own problems with social anxiety. I'm hoping daycare will alleviate that problem next year, but the thought of hosting huge birthday parties scares the living daylights out of me. He was invited to a neighbor's party several months ago, and my mother in law had to take him bc I was too scared. It was rather pitiful. I feel like a failure of a mom, but at the same time, I know I'm doing the best I can. And kids are going to do what they do. I don't recall having any kind of party except with family until I was about 6 or 7. It rained that day, I'll never forget. No one showed bc of it. I got over it though. I think things will work themselves out as they flow into your life. I mean, kids are a force of nature. There's no stopping what is going to happen, no matter what your issues are. You just have to roll with the punches. She's going to make friends, and she's going to have little parties, so no worries. Maybe she just hasn't found her place yet, but it will happen. Scares the bejesus out of me lol.