when the present is too hard to bear - i use grounding techniques, slow my breathing, touch a rough surface and try to really feel it through the panic and pain - that is what grounding is all about - as has been saidby the many wise people above if its the past or the future that is worrying you then being in the present is the thing to be -

There are many grounding techniques at the top of the PTSD forum that i have found useful - sometimes they work other times they dont and you just have to ride out the pain until it passes. easier said than done i know.

You do belong - you may not feel like it i know i didnit and often dont - thatshalf the problem thinking and feeling you dont beloong when if you keep taking one second at a time - then one minute at a time , you can do this .

We are all individuals - as perfect and beautiful as a snowflake