Hang in there Theseus. I think something to remember when it comes to viewing how we look is not to look at ourselves and compare. But rather to see how others react. If you find that people are attracted to you and compliment you, then the data indicates that your view on how you look is incorrect ... which I'm betting it is.

Personally I've always used this method to gauge how I look in that suit, how this haircut looks (when I had hair ) and how I looked in general. I could always find flaws, that's easy. The trick was how people reacted to me. Did the girls find me attractive and handsome? Did guys want to emulate my build or style? Those are the indicators, not comparing myself to Hugh Jackman (i.e. apples to oranges).