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AnxietyMaster · Jun 23, 2015, 01:31 PM

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Originally Posted by musinglizzy

I'm assuming this is a parent or a partner.

Unless, of course, you are a minor....then the rules are a bit different.

I, too, have stomach/bowel issues...anxiety really sucks sometimes!

1 Yes. If you read the following rant, I say it only at the end.

2. We'll just say "very" minor. Between the ages of 14-11 but on the latter. In other words, a newly spawned teenager.

3. Yeah. Especially when you think that those cramps you are having, are actually that small amount of glass that you might have eaten passing through your digestive tract ripping up your intestines -_-

Here is a post that I was typing, that turned out being a horrible rant. You don't really have to read, as it is just bashing w/o getting to the point. I just wrote this because I was angry :3

It covers a lot of what you guys said too.

Possible trigger:

"Hello Everyone!

How do I tell someone very close minded, opinionated, and worried about me that I need help? I have been seeing a school consular for about 2 years every week or so.
I have the feeling she has exhausted her helpfulness, and she even asked me to basically "move on". It wasn't very hard to hear since our relationship was very shallow.
I asked her (not the counselor) to make me an appointment to see my primary care, as well as at a counseling center. She put this off for months, and I reminded her twice.
The first time she said sure, I’ll make it. A month goes by, I ask only about primary care. She calls, and I get an appointment that day. This is all good, because
I have an illness that I have been living with for 6+ Years that I could have gotten relief from, but was not confident to say anything. Colonoscopy and Endoscopy on Thursday (fingers crossed) for it!
It's been 4 or 5 months and I reminded her again. This time she blew up on me, and we screamed at each other. We fight all the time, but its fine by now.
We recently had a fight (her side) about how all psychiatric medication makes you gain 100s of lbs. I said this is mainly with antipsychotics, but she said "No it's all that she**"
She tells me "The psychopharmaceutical industrial complex is not your friend! They don't care about you!" and I will tell her "That's why you have someone (P) to care about you and offer guidance!"
When I am at home, she ignores me, and when I ask her if she is mad at me, she says "No it's fine". She is all mop all the time, because she cannot work up the courage to
Talk to her doctor about her side effects. I tell her all you have to do is ask, she says "It doesn’t matter, she's payed off anyway". I will look up her doctor to show her she is not,
But she doesn’t believe the government database. She likes to tease me about the feelings I am having as well. "Wow, when they give you the profile for your procedure it will do wonders for your anxiety! *giggle*"
She is always telling me "You should eat healthier!" then when I ask her if I can get things to make food "No" mind you, I can't drive.
She doesn’t believe that mental illness is a thing, and that it is caused by "Big Pharma". She has had experience with mental illness, as he brother was Schizophrenic.
I told her that I can't go up to the counter to ask for help because I am worried about criticism, and that it takes me time to work up courage.
Her response was "Wow, that's really sad." The other person I seek for support is always over worked and stressed. Sometimes in a day, I won't eat anything because there is nothing but sweets in the house
Then he comes home, and won't take me to get food. Mind you, I am not allowed to cook. She is always talking about how "stressed" she is.
Literally all day, she sits in the same spot on the couch, reading news on her iPad. She then takes a carton of Ice Cream and eats it straight out of it.
Not to mention, she loves it when she actually has work to do, but "complains" about how much she has to do. The company she hires to manage her condo rentals called her
And needed an EIN number. She had not applied for you, and was freaking out that she had so much to do. It's literally a five min. process. She had me do it anyway.
I tell her about how at night I have horrible thoughts, and that it prevents me from doing things, and she says "That's so funny."
We got in a fight about college as well. It wasn't over anything. I always talk in a clear, not raised voice. She gets angry when she doesn’t get her way.
She told me honestly how she feels about me having "issues". Because of this, I don't talk about me problems with anyone. This is most likely why I am coming on here to vent (sorry)!
Although she is very smart, she is very closed minded and stubborn. She loves to tell me about how I think that I am the smartest person in the world (I don't).
She loves to bring this up when she has no evidence in an argument. She showed me something about how "Some people can't lose weight because of their genetics".
I told her I don't think that is right. While I do agree that this might be a genetic disposition, it's not her. It was on some tabloid website, and it had
The most vague "symptoms" that are just normal human feelings. "Do you feel fatigued, dry mouth, or itchy eyes? Well maybe you can't lose weight!”
I told her about how many people have much success on Metformin to lose weight, but you have to follow a diet. She said "Well! It must not work for me, because I have been!"
Sorry, Ice-cream is not a diet. I made the mistake of inviting her to the gym with me, where she just judges me instead of actually doing something.
Tells me "You should learn to lose weight, and control it", I haven't lost or gained any weight in 6/months.

Oh my gosh. I just realized that this just turned into a big rant! Thank you if you read my rant! I could go on for days!

TL;DR:

How do I gain confidence?
How do I manage stress and anxiety?
How do I stop fighting with "her"?
How do I find an outlet to talk about my issues with, that doesn’t require driving?
How do I control "her"? (Not in a bad way!)
How do I control myself?
How do I convince her to let me see a T?

Yes, those people are my parents.

As I extract from this rant above:

Quote:

TL;DR:

How do I gain confidence?
How do I manage stress and anxiety?
How do I stop fighting with "her"?
How do I find an outlet to talk about my issues with, that doesn’t require driving?
How do I control "her"? (Not in a bad way!)
How do I control myself?
How do I convince her to let me see a T?

I would go see a primary care, but I have to ask. Plus, it makes my bowl condition act up when I go see doctors.

I don't know. My (very old) mother seemingly has variable moods every day. Late at night (1-2) she is a joy! Morning/all day she is horrible to be around with a very bad attitude. With the exception of random days when she is really happy, and will take us to do things -_-

I feel as if my forum post has lost direction.