Yes Webgoji I think you're right. I tend to put myself down. My husband will say "hey handsome", and I tell him to stop saying that because I don't think I'm handsome. Yet I can see another guy whom I do resemble and think "hot damn, he's hot!". No pleasing some people.

There is a site I joined for the gainer community. It is 99.9% gay men. I got a lot of compliments and hit-ons, but of course being married I make it clear I am married. I do get compliments in real life. The funny thing is that they're from women who probably don't realize I'm gay. That's actually flattering.

I spent too much time at bodybuilding.com where there are a lot of roided-up doosh-bags. There are a lot of great guys there too, but I spent too much time and energy comparing myself to them. I'll never be Hugh Jackman, or Chris Hemsworth and I accept that. This little foray into all-dietary-bets-are-off was an overcompensation.