Well its day 4 and still my husband is ignoring me, but because of being able to post on here I am actually feeling a little stronger and thinking that it is his problem and not mine. I spent my afternoon yesterday doing what I wanted instead of worrying about his needs. I have been reading a lot and some articles say he feels unsure of himself and that's why he cuts me down all the time and does the silent treatment. He has erectile dis function which is my fault of course. He complains that I never hug him or initiate anything anymore. But he cuts me down every single day about something, when I try to talk to him about it he says I can't take a joke or I am feeling sorry for myself. How can he expect me to be loving when he treats me this way every day. I do not understand his thoughts at all. And every time we try to talk, its always all about everything I am not doing to make him happy. And all the things I do wrong. After a while you start to believe it, I do so many of the things the articles I read, say the victims of emotional abuse do. I am trying really hard to stand up for myself, and trying to not let this silent treatment get to me. Its only like the 100th time anyway.