Yeah, unclear boundaries are confusing. Mostly referring to my MC here, of course...

But also my T says I can e-mail her whenever, though she doesn't usually respond. I don't see her this week, since she's out a few days. I sent her a couple e-mails last week after our session, including one that said if she got any cancellations for the day she'd be in to call me. Then I sent her something Monday (a day she was in the office--I saw her!) after an emotional session with MC. I guess I thought I'd hear *something* back from her. Even just a "thanks for sharing, hang in there, let's talk about that next week." But nothing. I guess she knows from the past that if I'm in real distress, I'll call her. It still would be nice to get some sort of acknowledgment. I'd bring that up next week if I didn't have a million other things to talk about!

I can see why your T doesn't want to be your only source of support. But it does seem odd he's setting all the limits before you even start e-mailing him. I mean, if you were e-mailing him 5 times a day, and then being like, "Why aren't you writing back?" 10 minutes after you sent an e-mail, then I could see him setting limits. But saying all that before you even send him an e-mail seems like overkill. I suspect he doesn't usually e-mail with clients, so he doesn't know what boundaries to set. He should at least give you a chance though!