This is totally confusing. And a little hurtful.

I felt the same way when I asked my ex-T if I could still call her if I really needed her (when she was in the process of tightening her "boundaries") and she said "don't call me on Christmas." Like she needed to tell me that even though I rarely called her without it being prearranged and OFFERED by her first.

The contradictiry messages are confusing, esp when not clearly laid out. I wish people would be either more specific or put less qualifiers. I like more specific guidelines so I don't have to worry how much is too much. If I worry too much about asking for too much, it makes reaching out impossible.

Would you feel comfortable emailing him about stuff at this point?