I am not looking for love I am looking for attraction and quality dating opportunities. As a guy who is out of college and works in IT with mostly men, that will be impossible to find without being able to attract women I meet in public places, which is mainly about looks. For example I want to be able to get the 20 year old cutie at the gym to be interested in me. Why would she choose a 27 year old ugly loser when she probably meets tons of cute young guys in college?