So, for you, is it more about needs you had from your mom during childhood? My dad is still alive (thankfully!), and our relationship is pretty good. But I feel like what I was missing from him was during my childhood/teen years, when I really needed that understanding and acceptance--and also guidance, I guess.

I think some of this is coming out, too, because I have a 4-year-old daughter now, so I see myself in her. Especially because she may have some anxiety issues (plus is a bit delayed in language). And I don't want my H to replay the pattern of my dad. I want us both to help and accept her and make her feel reassured the way I wanted to be.

Luckily, my T had a cancellation this afternoon, so I'm going in at 5. I didn't want to have to wait another week to see her, with what seems to be a mountain of stuff piling up to address. Plus I'm feeling pretty badly about things with MC this morning, so it will help to talk with her (I hope!)