Quote:
Originally Posted by ameliaxxx
An older T would be more experienced, but there are people who are in the business for decades and just suck. And ones who just come in and are great. If she is really good, go back for a few more consultations.
Weigh the pros and cons. She sounds really good, and empathic, and maybe the businesslike way you treat her will help you avoid transference with her. But, maybe she is too young and you can't open up with her. Do you actually know how old she is? Also, age doesn't always mean maturity. Do you mean mother issues as your own mom or being a mom? She may have issues it's her mom, but if she is young, she may not have dealt with it yet.
Overall, go see her a few more times before giving her up.
Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
|
I think I tend to gravitate towards younger Ts to try to avoid transference, but current T thinks (and I am agnostic about this) that an older T who I would have maternal transference towards and who would be able to "hold" that and work through it with me would be good for me. It's possible. The thing is that I want this T to be the last T I see for a long time, so if that's something I need to work through (which I don't know if it is), then I might be shooting myself in the foot by choosing someone with whom those vulnerable feelings will simply never arise.