My current T is 13 years older than me, so it's not like we're peers age-wise (I'm 20 and she's 33 this year), but I still tend to look at her as little...maybe because she looks very young, or because she is super genuine and eager about everything, or just because I'm very aware that I am her "first" in many respects (even though she worked in a hospital for three years and in private practice for two years and has a masters of social work). But she tends to remind me of my baby sister sometimes. Affectionately! But she thinks because of that, she isn't someone who I would be able to really process mother issues with, and I think she might be right.

The consult T is probably 36 or 37, but she looks VERY young, and I don't know if that might cause me to relate to her in a similar way to my current T. The maternal transference I've had with other therapists definitely wouldn't happen, which might be good, but maybe not. I don't know. I used to think I needed a relationship where I could feel in control and not have mother feelings towards, but with two younger Ts who I didn't accomplish very much with in terms of processing those feelings, I'm not so sure now.