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Originally Posted by Yearning0723
I think I tend to gravitate towards younger Ts to try to avoid transference, but current T thinks (and I am agnostic about this) that an older T who I would have maternal transference towards and who would be able to "hold" that and work through it with me would be good for me. It's possible. The thing is that I want this T to be the last T I see for a long time, so if that's something I need to work through (which I don't know if it is), then I might be shooting myself in the foot by choosing someone with whom those vulnerable feelings will simply never arise.
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Well, that maybe. That seems what your old T said is probably reasonable, but I'm not you so I don't know. If it is true, then you would be shooting yourself in the foot because you're not dealing with your problems. Just side stepping it.
Give the one your seeing now one more shot, if you can't open up, then she is worthless. Otherwise, find another T that will help you. It's up to you if you want to put yourself through maternal transference, but in the long run, if that is what you need, then that's the only way you'll get better. It's up to you though.
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