I have a bad habit of ruining my chances of having a relationship. I really like the idea of having a boyfriend, having someone who would love me and care about me and someone who would see me as one of the most important persons in the world. But I seem to do my best to make this impossible.

Everytime someone shows that they're interested in me I freak out and make it clear that nothing's going to happen. Then again, there's this one guy who I've had sex with and tend to end up making out with when drunk, who I've ended up developing a crush on, even though he's made it clear he has no interest in being anything more than friends with me. And this is not the first time I've developed feelings for someone who isn't interested in me. But I never have any interest in the boys that are actually interested in me, so basically I'm sabotaging my own chances of ever having a romantic relationship.

This is a problem I've had since I was a teenager (I'm 22 now). I was sexually abused a bit over a year ago, which I think has made things worse, and after that I've also been sexually quite careless and had several one night stands (always safe sex though!), which obviously isn't helping the situation.

Has anyone else had a similar problem? How have you dealt with the situation?