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Originally Posted by PinkFlamingo99
I'm honestly curious how they know the difference between "maternal transference" and just wanting a hug from someone who you care about. It seems a little hurtful and punitive.
I think of my pastor as a "mother figure" and she hugs me every week and every time we meet up to talk. It makes me feel loved and safe... No drama because it's not therapy. Sometimes I think therapy removes itself too far from normal human interaction and pathologizes it in a way that's unhealthy.
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Part of it with my T is that I've told her I've found myself reluctant to tell her about certain things. Then realized it's because my mother would have reacted negatively to them, so that's probably why. At the same time, I don't have nearly as much attachment to her as I do to my MC. And with him it's different--it's more of an idealized paternal figure with a touch of erotic transference. No erotic transference for my T (I've told her, you're attractive and well-dressed, but sorry, women aren't really my thing, don't be offended! Which has made her laugh). So, yeah, I don't really see why hugs would be so bad from my T. Maybe I'll try asking for one today and see if she runs away screaming
