This is why I'm getting angry... There are so many things being responded to here that I did not say. Strong feelings... threesome... wtf? I cannot engage in a world where words do not mean what they mean.

This is my experience; I am only generalizing the 20 or so women I've been involved with (6 of them 'serious'). One of them, and only the one, actual said 'we need to talk' and then proceeded to talk to me about her problems with the relationship and why she didn't see it going anywhere. Just one actually engaged me as an adult human being.
I am very aware of my behaviors. It is difficult to process emotions, and while I do I tend to get somewhat distant. But are women who stay with guys who get drunk and hit them.