Hi Fuzzy,

Think you're doing great........"Maybe he was jealous because I was young and pretty" recognising what they say isn't necessarily true at all.
It is all about them, not about you. It is their problem.
Whether they are looking for power/control in their lives or influence over others, whether they have anger issues, whether they've been hurt themselves, whether..........and that's just taken out on others.............
So try to keep that detachment going, what they do/say doesn't have to define you, you can still be who you are deep down. Try not to make their problems as much your problems.
And you know, when you can, try to remind yourself that they aren't worthy of so many of your feelings...........maybe try to focus more on memories of positive things other people in your life have done or said, or people you actually respect/admire.
And of course your positive traits too!!

And if you've got recurring specific thoughts/things they've said........try writing them all down, several times and burn that piece of paper, then start on another piece of paper writing down all the good things about yourself........just a thought.

But absolutely you can feel sorry for them, but if you can't then maybe you can still feel grateful or proud of yourself that you're a much better person in the way you behave than they are in the way they behave/behaved.



Alison