I have an insane (in a different way) mom too, just saying. She means well but ultimately she just makes things worse for me. She is definitely not included in any emergency plans of mine unless it becomes absolutely necessary. I think sometimes people who are TOO invested can be way more of a problem than they are a help. I'm glad that my fiance is understanding and intelligent enough not to take my bipolarness personally. My mom always takes my **** personally.