Since people are bringing up tightening boundaries, I'll say from my experience, that's SO hurtful. I want consistency. I need it. Is it too much to ask? If T is going to offer something, don't just take it away. It's too harmful for the client, and isn't it their job to do no harm?

As far as contact between sessions, my T has been great with that. Even to the point of INSISTING on it. Texts or Emails (I do not call her). She was always good at responding, even if it was brief. Sometimes it was NOT brief. But since our rupture in March, after the argumentative Emails stopped, she has changed that, too. Maybe she's unusually busy in her life. Moreso than she usually is. I don't know. But she maybe responds to half of my Emails and texts, and when she does, they are a line, maybe two, usually. Being so sensitive to change, I definitely notice this change in our communications.

With every trip she has taken, she's offered contact then, too. I didn't agree with it, saying she needed time away from work, but she insisted. Said she would harass me if I didn't check in. She's gone now, and this is the first time she has not only not offered, but said she wouldn't be available while she's gone. Of course, logically, I should think she's on a family trip and decided to put everything else aside, as she should. Or maybe she's somewhere where she can't keep in touch. But with my sensitivity and hurt feelings already, I'm fearing the worst. that she has implemented another new boundary, and that is no contact. Considering she's not responding like she used to, and told me she's unavailable while she's gone. I hate being this sensitive!!