I guess I just don't see it that way at all theoretically speaking, I don't think that's how independence develops, not in children and not in adults. I also don't see the problem with dependence, it;s not like we're taking fully functional problem free adults and turn them into non functioning problem riddled individuals through dependence. I also think that for most people there is a point where they will feel saturated with care and want to create more distance by themselves, just like it happens with teenagers.