Also, it is not just about finding dates. I have seen many girls say that they find it annoying when unattractive guys show interest in them. Yes I know this is not all girls, but many of them do feel this way. So basically whether or not a girl would enjoy my attention or be uncomfortable with it may actually depend on whether or not I look good. So as long as I have doubts about my physical attractiveness, I will not have confidence approaching girls. And how can I not expect girls to find my mole unattractive when I personally find facial moles unattractive on girls?

I already took an appointment to have it looked at, but it is still causing me so much distress, I am not wanting to go anywhere where I will come across girls I'm attracted to, because I'm afraid they will see the mole and judge me as being unattractive. Also, because they noticed my mole, they will notice when I get it removed. I can't help but feel like I will be judged as vain and narcissistic. It feels like I'm in a lose-lose situation, I'm basically choosing between being judged as unattractive or being judged as vain, both of which will turn girls off. In a way it's easier for girls, because they are allowed to beautify themselves but if you're a guy, you have to be naturally good looking.

By the way, many people say that girls actually decide in the first 6 seconds when they meet a guy, whether or not they will ever want to have sex with him. If this is the case, then it is pretty safe to assume that is mostly about looks and that if you don't have the looks, nothing you do really matters in terms of attraction.