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Originally Posted by Ms.Beans
So, as the title says..
I'm 28yo, everything is more or less okay in my life (as much as it can be for someone with bipolar ha). Anyhow, I've noticed in the recent years I can't have sex unless I'm drunk or high. I've had a couple of long-term relationships, and the last one really messed my sexy things. We didn't have sex for 7 months (in a row) out of 2 years due to his emotional issues. So, for the last 2 years or so I can't relax.. I can ever have sex only when I'm intoxicated, otherwise I either don't get horny or literally freak out.
Has anybody experienced that? It doesn't seem healthy.
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Sounds like the chronic rejection from your most recent relationship has certainly created some wounds. There is a certain level of detachment in coupling while intoxicated, allows one to be physically present and emotionally somewhere else.
Intimacy while sober with the right partner can be a rewarding experience. As far as the big(and little o's)O, having someone safe to be with to take you there, is something to consider in your next relationship.
I, personally, wouldn't tolerate withholding behavior. There's valid reasons, then there are games and control.