My husband and I have been married for 25 years and we still don't express ourselves well. I have always been bad about expressing my needs and bottling things up, but I finally get the courage together to tell my husband that he is drinking too much and is not a very pleasant drunk and then he tells me that he is in serious pain from sciatica and an old knee injury. His doctor wants to put him on vicoden, but he doesn't want to take it. He hasn't told me about any of this. He just decided to dull the pain with beer.

So here I've been upset and unhappy because he's really obnoxious when he's drunk (not violent or mean, just loud and pushy), and he tells me why he's doing it and I feel guilty and bad for bringing it up.

I just want to go hide by myself and not have to take care of anyone else for a while.