You are using an uncommon amount of good sense. Not only are you wanting to end it with this guy, but you are realizing that who he is won't change. That takes willingness to face hard realities. Generally, people want to believe that there will be change. They want to believe that a person will change himself, or go for some counseling that will bring about the desired change.

Here is another tough reality that is worth considering. Life offers no promise that you will meet the person you hope for. Of course, being with Mr. Wrong guarantees you won't be availabe to meet Mr. Right. I understand anyone wanting love. It's what I wanted more than anything. But there are worse things in life than being alone. (I did find that out.) Being with a user who takes and takes can leave you more devastated than being on your own. It's a situation that just gets worse with the years.

I hope your foot doesn't need a lot longer to heal up. Then look for signs of good character in a man, before you get too involved. When it's not there, cut bait and move on. If you really want a good relationship, then you can't afford to waste time with bad ones.

I've seen more than a couple of threads where the O.P. says "I did't want to judge the person. I didn't want to be judgemental." Wrong thinking!! You do want to be very judgemental about the people you are considering getting very involved with.