I lot of people feel like they are living a lie - or part of a lie. Do you frame your life like this as you describe it to others? It can be off putting, or they may get a sense of too much too fast. After all, everyone (or almost everyone) has experienced terrible losses...
Energy must be put into creating a narrative that is honest, yet doesn't undermine your life experiences, or reduce it only to the negative, to what is missing. The stories we tell ourselves *about* ourselves are very powerful...do you show yourself mercy, kindness, patience?