Wow Hashi, you are really going thru a lot. Totally uncool that instead of support your hubby adds to your anxiety. He's married to YOU. Not those other people that abuse Xanax. Call ur doc and let her know whats happening. Weaning too much to quickly can make things much worse. Cutting your dosage in half in just one month seems excessive. It depends on how long you have been on a med. dont recommend weaning off more than one med at a time. Thats not healthy. We had similar issue with my doc of more than two decades. After a failed back surgery he said was taking too much medicine. He switched our Xanax to Klonapin. Klonapin is hell in a pill. Think Zanax is abused? Klonapin is a thousand times worse. Took it for six months. Took15 months to get off it. And have permanent issues from it. If your doc is not 'feelin' what your saying try talking to a pharmacist. We changed docs - it is still a fresh hurt, like a death - when you loose a doc that taken care of you for more than half your life. But got a new doc that listens to us. And WOW she checked thyroid and am hypo, not producing like it should, and thats way serious. Turns out many anti-depressants, bipolar, Schizo, etc., drugs affect the thyroid. Lithium use in particular affects thyroid function. Old doc never checked and had been on Lithium for twelve years. When the thyroid is not functioning like it should it affects your moods, anxiety, etc. one other thing to consider is SSRI's. Google that to see if it might fit your issues. Our old doc had us on stuff that didnt mix.
We now use Kratom to take the edge off. This is a legal herb that we take in powder form. Google that too. Mite help.
Hope things get better for you!!!