I have just spent another sleepless night because of feeling worthless and unlovable. My husband's communication skills have always sucked. Mine weren't so great either, but I've been in therapy and really want to make things better. He's come to T with me 2 times. T suggested we see a marriage counselor but he refuses. He makes me feel like the only one with issues and it's great that I go to T but he doesn't need to change. At first he made some attempts but we are back to square one and I am back to feeling alone and worthless. Last night he became angry at me because I asked to many questions about plans that he made to go out with my in laws. I asked where we were going and what should i wear. I thought they were reasonable questions. He was irritated because he didn't have time to ask and he didn't know. I asked if he could please find out so I could be prepared. It turned out to be a fight and he is now giving me the silent treatment again. He is a good man ,works hard, and is great with our kids. He just doesn't see me. I am last on his list. I go weeks without attention. Haven't heard a compliment or something sweet in a long time. I feel like I am living with a room mate. He knows all of this and yet won't get help because he sees it as my problem. There is more but it's too painful to admit. I am very patient and affectionate with him but I don't get that back. He gets mad that I come on here but I tell him I am lonely with him sitting across the room not caring to interact. Has anyone been to marriage counseling? Did it work for communication? How do I get him to want to go? He thinks I just emotional and I will get over it. tHANK YOU