Hi Fuzzy,

First of all I don't think you should not tell them because of shame or embarrassment or any feelings like that, or because they might not understand........if they aren't going to at least try to understand just a little with your help then shame on them.
But I also don't think you should be obligated to tell them either. I'd say it should be completely up to you whether you want to tell them or not. Afterall they haven't "a right or need" to know, right??!! And everyone, family or not family, has a right to keep some things private if they wish to.
If they might be supportive..........great........but otherwise...........
So maybe draw up a list of pro's and con's to help you decide if you actually do want to tell them or not??
And Fuzzy, you are never going to convince those of us on here who know you that you're a "bad person"!!!

Alison