At first, I found it really hard. He was easy to talk to, I trusted him and knew he was always supportive. But I knew I had to learn to reach out to others too, that's what I wanted to learn. I knew I couldn't lean on my T forever.

Yes, we talked about it a lot. Because it was of such importance to me and because it was scary. I could still email and call him all the time, he didn't cut back on that. I might have even called or emailed him more at times, because I wanted to share how it went, either positive or negative. I remember one time I was overwhelmed, in a good way. I had all these feelings I'd never felt before, I felt so happy and strong. I just needed to tell him that, I was so grateful at that moment.

Because of his support, the tools he gave me, I changed and I was ready to move on. Unfortenately, that's when I discovered the downside of the attachment. I had a hard time breaking lose. I learned I could only do that by not having my safety net anymore. I needed to end therapy in order to move on.

I think I've done the most work after therapy. It's like driving when you've finally gotten your permit. That's when you really learn. Recently when I was struggling with all kinds of things and I almost reached out to my T. I didn't think I could do it without his help. But I did, it was the "perfect" situation to do my homework. I reached out to several friends for help and I got through it. I was so proud of myself. I could do it because of what my T had taught me, and because I could still feel his encouragement, his love, his support.