hi. i was wondering if maybe anyone else here has gone through a problem like this. i been working on self esteem stuff a lot at therapy and part of it is trying to figure out who i really am. i wonder a lot what i would be like if i hadn't been abused as a kid and try to figure out who that person is and how i am supposed to be. i try to find places where i fit in or people i fit in with but it seems like the things i'm drawn to my wife and my therapist say are bad for me. and that always happening and them always saying that makes me feel like if the real me comes out then i'm gonna be a bad person.