I know what you mean by being confident and comfortable with social situations...until it comes to meeting up with the therapist somewhere outside the appointment. Truly, I think it's how the transference stuff gets tangled up with the "boundary rules". We have the transference feelings which are unusual, awkward, and strong, and then the knowledge of the boundaries we've been taught to know, primarily from everywhere except our own T. So, in the unstructured place outside T's office, it's suddenly an invisible electric fence. I'm so scared my T or my med nurse at the clinic will think I'm trying to get extra attention or being obnoxious, when I'm especially trying to be a good patient. It's just dreadful! Being a bit fat, myself, it's just awful for T to see me standing at the receptionist desk from way down the hall! I repeat and repeat to myself, "I know she doesn't care, I know I'm not doing anything improper" and I feel awful anyway.