Thanks for the comments all esp divine - we have a "dry run" over the next two weeks as our son goes away. I know I'm over anxious at present and the advantage of the UK is that the kids will only be a couple of hours away. It's their friendship I will miss esp our Son who has grown into a really kind and respectful man who also has much the same taste in music as I do.
God willing Mrs d1023 can sort through the problems we have and things will turn out OK.