Hi guys,

I have been seeing my pdoc for 2 years and I really liked him until some months ago, when he changed my diagnosis and subsequently started messing with my meds, adding this and that, playing with dosages, etc. I've been seeing my T for a year and I liked her at first, but not anymore, because I find she cannot help me anymore. She wants to solve everything with EMDR, like it was some sort of magic wand, while I don’t like it a bit. She also does MBCT but is “obsessed” with EMDR. In short, I don’t like her anymore, I feel she’s helped sort out what my problems are, but not how to put a remedy on them.

This said, I have decided some time ago to go to a highly specialized center in Rome, where I already had an interview with a pdoc and did some personality and mood tests. I have yet to go back again to the pdoc so that he can give me the ultimate diagnosis and advice on the therapy I should do. However, he has already suggested I do DBT there in Rome (it’s the best center for DBT in Italy and there are no DBT therapists in my area anyway), which I am very inclined to do in the end.

In any case I’ll be moving house and city in September and it would be natural for me to decide to stop seeing my current pdoc and T.

Now my question is: should I tell them I don’t want to see them again because I want to go to Rome to get therapy, or should I just fire them without explanation? I feel quite guilty for not having talked about this with them both, but my bf tells me that’s just because I see them more as confidants than as professionals. He might be right.

What do you think I should do?