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Originally Posted by hankster
I can tell ya what it does NOT mean. A few years ago i was at my mothers doing some yard work so she made me a bowl of pasta for lunch. She asked me how much grated cheese i wanted on it. I said just put some. She put on so much you could hardly see the pasta. She said, thats how your brother likes it, with lots of cheese. So - i think she has held him in mind, but never me - she has no idea how much cheese i like on my pasta.
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My stepmother bought my clothes or went along to buy them until I was in my 20's and I remember how upset she was the first time I bought something for myself without her there (and, an expensive winter coat at that :-) But your cheese thing, hankster, reminded me of when I asked for a rain coat for Christmas and how anxious my stepmother was buying it without me there! She did buy a wonderful one, with a zip-out lining so I could wear it whatever season, but it was a couple sizes too big! I finally figured out one day in therapy; she was intimidated by me and "saw" me as psychologically larger than I was. It could be your mother is afraid of not giving you enough, like maybe your anger or disappointment would hurt her. If you haven't let her feed you lately and your brother has, she could just have been making sure you would get "enough".