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Originally Posted by Rose76
You are using an uncommon amount of good sense. Not only are you wanting to end it with this guy, but you are realizing that who he is won't change. That takes willingness to face hard realities. Generally, people want to believe that there will be change. They want to believe that a person will change himself, or go for some counseling that will bring about the desired change.
Here is another tough reality that is worth considering. Life offers no promise that you will meet the person you hope for. Of course, being with Mr. Wrong guarantees you won't be availabe to meet Mr. Right. I understand anyone wanting love. It's what I wanted more than anything. But there are worse things in life than being alone. (I did find that out.) Being with a user who takes and takes can leave you more devastated than being on your own. It's a situation that just gets worse with the years.
I hope your foot doesn't need a lot longer to heal up. Then look for signs of good character in a man, before you get too involved. When it's not there, cut bait and move on. If you really want a good relationship, then you can't afford to waste time with bad ones.
I've seen more than a couple of threads where the O.P. says "I did't want to judge the person. I didn't want to be judgemental." Wrong thinking!! You do want to be very judgemental about the people you are considering getting very involved with.
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Well said Rose. I think on some point I really believed in change but I gave him lots of time and nothing has changed. So, I lost the HOPE for the change in him.
These days I'm getting sad more often. I try to go out with friends and not stay alone at home but it's hard to stay focus and not think about him.
I know his type, he can't stay alone by himself, very soon (probably even now) he starts asking women for date. Knowing that it will take me longer to fine a right man is killing me. I remember once he told me he said if we break up it will be harder for me than himself!
I hate the self pity, but I can't help it!
Tonight, it's a birthday of a mutual friend and he's going. I said I'll go, but I don't want to go and see him there! Besides, I feel this girl is more his friend than mine. So all these changes in friendships and life style and changes on the day to day life are the ones that bothering me. I have to adjust myself.
I think I don't miss him being mean and unkind and selfish to me but I miss the fact that I was a couple with him and I was hopeful to be together and love each other for rest of our lives.